There are people who enjoys blaming others for their own troubles.
I'm sure everybody got personal experience with people like that -- people who hold everybody else in the organization at fault -- but never themselves.
If the project's late, "it's Jim's fault" -- even though Jim was always on time and on top of things.
If the shipment didn't get out -- well, "It's the receptionist's fault. Heavens, I got it there by 3:59, and FedEx picks up until 4."
It's a problem that's common to three-year-olds -- children will even invent imaginary people just to take the blame for them -- but just as the parents can figure out the truth when a three-year-old doesn't take the blame, so can everybody else in the office.
Yes, it's true -- the blamers and slackers are never putting it over on anyone but themselves.In an organization, blamers can tear the organization apart. They spread unhealthy environment and even infecting other employees' morale with their attitude.
These people who refuse to take the responsibility for what they do often let it go to an extreme.
I remember a childhood acquaintance that, after breaking wind, always recited the ditty "First fault's finder smells his own hinder." It was her way of refusing to take the blame for her odor, and as the years went on, she was always expecting other people to take responsibility for her actions in other ways as well.
Another person I knew built up an entire fantasy life story for herself. She didn't like the way reality had gone, so she built up a synthetic reality to take its place. Did she ever take responsibility for her own actions? Not a chance -- she always blamed other people, life, or "bad luck."
Take a chance to evaluate your conduct in this area. Are you forever making excuses? Do you work to actively place the blame where it doesn't belong? Do you shove your own mistakes off on someone else? Do you lie to cover up your own inadequacies? Do you choose to let other people suffer so you don't have to?
If you fall into the bad side of this equation, now is the time to fix your troubles. You've likely burned a lot of bridges in the past, but it's not too late to turn from your path of self-destruction and start to take the responsibility for yourself.
If you're a "blamer," then put it behind you. You're not only harming yourself but those around you as well.
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